This post is not music related, but rather geared toward technology. Recently out of work and consumed by boredom, I find myself with copious amounts of free time on my hands. My therapist said I should consider dating again, so I decided to try this Tinder app that the kids are raving about. After 48 hours using the app, I’ve decided that it is the single most effective way to destroy one’s self confidence. Basically, for those of you who don’t know, the app provides users with pictures of men or women within their proximity also looking for a social connection. Users are given the option to judge the person, based on looks and a description that consists of a character limit that guarantees learning virtually nothing about them.
One can swipe left if they are not interested, right if they are, and the app matches users based on the option both parties have chosen. In the event that both chose the “like” option, the app will denote a match. They can then message each other in hopes of forming some semblance of a real-life connection. Although I have not spent an overwhelming amount of time using the app, combined with the fact that I am pickier than is probably warranted, in a very short time, Tinder has made me feel like the ugliest person on planet earth.
It isn’t so much that I expect every woman I find attractive to feel the same about me. However, the fact that “likes” and “dislikes” are based almost solely on looks, Tinder can be a digital ego shatterer. Tinder is also a sad representation of what our culture has become as well as an exercise in being shallow. Do you remember the old website Hot Or Not? It’s pretty much the same thing with a less flagrant name. Tinder is simply a reinforcement of how our culture has strayed from valuing social interaction, and is also great way for socially awkward individuals to develop a vanity complex.
Online dating is a well-known cesspool of awkward comments in getting from point A to point B, in which often the only basis for conversation is a mutual “hey, you’re not totally hideous” agreement. With all the horror stories I have heard from the online dating world (even from those lucky enough to be contacted by members of the opposite sex), it is near impossible to place any faith in the system. But Tinder might even be worse than other sites. Instead of sending cheese ball remarks to attractive women in hopes of not being shot down in flames, users are enticed to sift though an ocean of people that simply do not find them attractive. On dating sites, one can pretend that their profile is not visible enough; that people are simply unaware of their striking good looks and rapier wit. On Tinder, an absence of responses is much more crushing since the user knows that every person they’ve seen has also seen them. There’s no more blaming the gods of Web stumbling for lack of interest-it’s you.
Perhaps my thoughts are a product of not having put the time in needed to succeed on Tinder, but after this trial run, I can’t imagine the app leading to any sort of meaningful relationship. I’m sure people that take great selfies have fun seeing all of the people that find them attractive, but for someone looking for a break from the arduous game of dating, it’s not much better. You’re probably better off Googling how to talk to members of the opposite sex. Or researching wasps.